Author: Kyle Benson

Kyle is a healthy relationship coach fascinated with the science of love & relationships. He loves helping couples revitalize relationships in the bedroom and out. Salsa dancer. Traveler. Power lifter. Learn more here.

Emotionally Intelligent Men are Key to a Lasting Relationship

Emotionally Intelligent Men are Key to a Lasting Relationship

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This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog. 

In a long-term study of 130 newlywed couples, Dr. John Gottman discovered that men who allow their wives to influence them have happier marriages and are less likely to divorce.

This critical skill is not limited to heterosexual couples.… Continue reading Here

4 Steps to Overcome Gridlock That Harms Relationships

4 Steps to Overcome Gridlock That Harms Relationships

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This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

All couples are bound to have arguments. When they struggle to manage these ongoing disagreements with constructive conflict conversations, the result is what Dr. John Gottman calls “gridlock.”

 

Gridlock is like a Chinese Finger Trap.… Continue reading Here

5 Rules for Having Constructive Relationship Conflict Conversation

5 Rules for Having Constructive Relationship Conflict Conversation

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How do you fight with your partner? Do you argue with them over how to love you or criticize them for their flaws?

Conflict conversations  in a relationship are not about the conflict. Most arguments are about nothing more than what the event means to each person in the relationship.… Continue reading Here

3 Betrayals That Ruin Relationships (That Don’t Require Sex)

3 Betrayals That Ruin Relationships (That Don’t Require Sex)

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This was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

Infidelity is the betrayal our society focuses on, but it is actually the subtle, unnoticed betrayals that truly ruin relationships. When partners do not choose each other day after day, trust and commitment erode away.… Continue reading Here

5 Signs You May Need to Bail on Your Relationship (Based on Research)

5 Signs You May Need to Bail on Your Relationship (Based on Research)

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This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

The idea that the love in your relationship has expired is a difficult thought for one to stomach. I often think of myself as Cupid’s sidekick. I root for couples that I work with to triumph, but I have seen love turn into hate and fondness into bitterness.… Continue reading Here

4 Powerful Exercises That Make A Toxic Relationship Healthy

4 Powerful Exercises That Make A Toxic Relationship Healthy

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Love is a dance of connection and disconnection. There are times when you feel compelled by your lover, and other times when you feel the need for alone time.

Some of us need more connection, others need more independence. Sometimes these differences lead to a toxic relationship.… Continue reading Here

3 Proven Ways To Reconnect When You’re Disconnected From Your Partner

3 Proven Ways To Reconnect When You’re Disconnected From Your Partner

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This article was originally published on the Gottman Relationship Blog.

What can you do right now to make your relationship more romantic?

You could get your wife a diamond necklace. Or maybe you could buy her the Mercedes dream car she’s always wanted.… Continue reading Here

The War of Independence In Relationships

The War of Independence In Relationships

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The idea that partners shouldn’t be needy and should be independent creates a lack of security in the relationship.

Kim and Kevin were on the verge of breaking up. Neither of them wanted to end things, but they were exhausted from fighting and blaming each other.… Continue reading Here

The Anxious Lover: Stop Feeling Insecure & Get The Love You Crave

The Anxious Lover: Stop Feeling Insecure & Get The Love You Crave

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Why do people manipulate others? Is it because they’re an asshole? Is it because they need to feel powerful?

I manipulated an ex-girlfriend once. Years ago, when I was in a toxic relationship with someone I loved, I lied to get a reaction out of her.… Continue reading Here

The #1 Thing Couples Fight About Based On 40 Years Of Research

The #1 Thing Couples Fight About Based On 40 Years Of Research

Most often couples fight about nothing

This article was originally published on the Gottman Relationship Blog.

Do you know Angelina Jolie?

She’s that beautiful actor who adopts Asian babies, and married the world’s most gorgeous man. They even had their own movie, Mr. and Mrs. Smith.… Continue reading Here

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