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Emotionally Intelligent Men are Key to a Lasting Relationship

Emotionally Intelligent Men are Key to a Lasting Relationship

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This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog. 

In a long-term study of 130 newlywed couples, Dr. John Gottman discovered that men who allow their wives to influence them have happier marriages and are less likely to divorce.

This critical skill is not limited to heterosexual couples.… Continue reading Here

4 Steps to Overcome Gridlock That Harms Relationships

4 Steps to Overcome Gridlock That Harms Relationships

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This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

All couples are bound to have arguments. When they struggle to manage these ongoing disagreements with constructive conflict conversations, the result is what Dr. John Gottman calls “gridlock.”

 

Gridlock is like a Chinese Finger Trap.… Continue reading Here

5 Rules for Having Constructive Relationship Conflict Conversation

5 Rules for Having Constructive Relationship Conflict Conversation

Conflict Conversation

How do you fight with your partner? Do you argue with them over how to love you or criticize them for their flaws?

Conflict conversations  in a relationship are not about the conflict. Most arguments are about nothing more than what the event means to each person in the relationship.… Continue reading Here

4 Powerful Exercises That Make A Toxic Relationship Healthy

4 Powerful Exercises That Make A Toxic Relationship Healthy

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Love is a dance of connection and disconnection. There are times when you feel compelled by your lover, and other times when you feel the need for alone time.

Some of us need more connection, others need more independence. Sometimes these differences lead to a toxic relationship.… Continue reading Here

The War of Independence In Relationships

The War of Independence In Relationships

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The idea that partners shouldn’t be needy and should be independent creates a lack of security in the relationship.

Kim and Kevin were on the verge of breaking up. Neither of them wanted to end things, but they were exhausted from fighting and blaming each other.… Continue reading Here

The #1 Thing Couples Fight About Based On 40 Years Of Research

The #1 Thing Couples Fight About Based On 40 Years Of Research

Most often couples fight about nothing

This article was originally published on the Gottman Relationship Blog.

Do you know Angelina Jolie?

She’s that beautiful actor who adopts Asian babies, and married the world’s most gorgeous man. They even had their own movie, Mr. and Mrs. Smith.… Continue reading Here

8 Profound Lessons Intimate Relationships Teach Us

8 Profound Lessons Intimate Relationships Teach Us

Intimate Relationships

Our intimate relationships teach us more than about the hearts of the ones we love. They teach us about ourselves. There is no greater people growing machine than that of love.

Our culture often views love as some fuzzy thing that gets passed around and makes you feel warm inside.… Continue reading Here

6 Steps To Becoming An Emotionally Available Lover

6 Steps To Becoming An Emotionally Available Lover

Hey Kyle, I read your last few articles about emotionally unavailable partners. It makes a lot of sense that you recommend others to avoid those of us with those flaws. Personally, I don’t want to be this way, but my childhood experiences, failed relationships, and lack of growth in becoming more emotionally available is downright depressing.Continue reading Here

How To Fight If Your Marriage Matters

How To Fight If Your Marriage Matters

Tough marriage conflicts can turn into a perfect storm.

Marriage conflicts can be nastyThey can flood the streets of love with the sewage of personal attacks. From what I’ve learned, beating up a loved one is never a fair fight. You know their deepest vulnerabilities, their most important values.… Continue reading Here

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