Responsibility

Transforming Criticism into Wishes: A Recipe for Successful Conflict

Transforming Criticism into Wishes: A Recipe for Successful Conflict

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog.

In the heat of an argument, it’s far easier to say what we don’t want than what we do. Stan Tatkin, the founder of the psychobiological approach to couple therapy, proposes that people are better built for war than love.… Continue reading Here

There Are Two Views to Every Conflict and Both Are Valid

There Are Two Views to Every Conflict and Both Are Valid

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This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

Heather’s voice raises as she says, “How can you not see it my way? It’s the truth and you know it. You’re just too stubborn to admit it!”

Jason responds, “That’s not what happened at all.… Continue reading Here

Do You Bottle Your Emotions? Susan David, Ph.D. Describes How It Hurts Your Relationship

Do You Bottle Your Emotions? Susan David, Ph.D. Describes How It Hurts Your Relationship

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Interviewed by Kyle Benson For  The Gottman Relationship Blog

Susan David, Ph.D. is an award-winning psychologist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School and the CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, a boutique business consultancy. Her new book Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life teaches a counterintuitive approach to achieving your true potential, which was heralded by the Harvard Business Review as a groundbreaking idea of the year in 2016.Continue reading Here

Repairs During Conflict are a Superpower of Emotionally Connected Couple

Repairs During Conflict are a Superpower of Emotionally Connected Couple

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This article was originally published on Verily

When you think about it, every couple in every relationship is set up for failure. It is impossible to be emotionally available to your partner 100 percent of the time. In fact, you will miss most of your partner’s bids for emotional connection out of mindlessness.… Continue reading Here

4 Marriage Myths That Ruin Marriages Without Partners Realizing It

4 Marriage Myths That Ruin Marriages Without Partners Realizing It

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This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog. 

As soon as the engagement ring is slipped on, we are inundated with messages about how our relationship should be. Our friends and family tell us what we should tolerate and what we shouldn’t.… Continue reading Here

4 Steps to Overcome Gridlock That Harms Relationships

4 Steps to Overcome Gridlock That Harms Relationships

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This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

All couples are bound to have arguments. When they struggle to manage these ongoing disagreements with constructive conflict conversations, the result is what Dr. John Gottman calls “gridlock.”

 

Gridlock is like a Chinese Finger Trap.… Continue reading Here

6 Steps To Becoming An Emotionally Available Lover

6 Steps To Becoming An Emotionally Available Lover

Hey Kyle, I read your last few articles about emotionally unavailable partners. It makes a lot of sense that you recommend others to avoid those of us with those flaws. Personally, I don’t want to be this way, but my childhood experiences, failed relationships, and lack of growth in becoming more emotionally available is downright depressing.Continue reading Here

The World is Wonderful and Everyone is Miserable

The World is Wonderful and Everyone is Miserable

Ugh. My phone won’t work. It’s so slow. This is bullshit.

“Will you give it a second? It’s sending your request to space and then back, you non-contributing zero.” – Louis CK

Our world is amazing. Sadly, it’s wasted on a generation of spoiled entitled kids (including myself) that don’t care how amazing it is.… Continue reading Here

Investing in an Attractive Identity

Investing in an Attractive Identity

Identity is often viewed as finite and consisting of separate and distinct parts such as family, cultural, religion, personal and professional. But according to Parker Palmer and other psychologists,

Our identity is an ever-evolving core within our biology, and experiences in culture – with our loved ones, friends, people who have harmed or humiliated us as well as people we have harmed, the deeds we’ve done (good or bad) to ourselves and others, other experiences and choices made come together in a melting pot to form who we are in this very moment.

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