As Jared Diamond pointed out in his book Guns, Germs and Steel, there are many things that are relative to environment; humanity’s evolution, values, inventions, and even diseases. It wasn’t until food production became a resource for our ancestors that humans actually started condensing populations to smaller areas.… Continue reading Here
I’ve spent a few years treading water in online dating, swimming through speed dating events, and holding my breath at the local “meet markets.” When I really felt lonely, I could line up five or six dates a week. But the more dates I went on, the more frustrated I became with the type of women I was meeting.… Continue reading Here
Each of us are hindered by our beliefs. This is not the issue. The issue is that like the elephants, we lack the awareness to realize which beliefs are hindering us the most. Changing your beliefs is a process of rewiring your mind and pruning away the behaviors that don’t serve you.… Continue reading Here
Those of us who haven’t achieved our goals yet may be imprisoned by our beliefs about what we are deserve. Limiting beliefs are beliefs that something we desire to accomplish is impossible for some reason, therefore preventing us from taking action or responsibility towards that goal.… Continue reading Here
As a man was passing elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.
We all have that one humiliating experience. I remember mine was in seventh grade, when a friend pulled down my pants in front of an entire class, which included a girl I had a crush on. I stood there acting like a tough guy because I thought my Batman underwear was still on.… Continue reading Here
When our intimacy button differs from our partner, we are bound to enter into the “perfect storm” that prevents both parties from getting what they want. It’s like starting a weight loss program that entails eating big macs and supersized french fries five times a day.… Continue reading Here
Far too often I work with guys that feel like they get walked on in their dating life. They’re unsure if the person they like reciprocates those feelings back. Most of these guys struggle in their dating lives because they choose not to assert themselves in fear of being rejected, or being deemed unmanly for seeming needy.… Continue reading Here
Identity is often viewed as finite and consisting of separate and distinct parts such as family, cultural, religion, personal and professional. But according to Parker Palmer and other psychologists,
Our identity is an ever-evolving core within our biology, and experiences in culture – with our loved ones, friends, people who have harmed or humiliated us as well as people we have harmed, the deeds we’ve done (good or bad) to ourselves and others, other experiences and choices made come together in a melting pot to form who we are in this very moment.