Author: Kyle Benson

Kyle Benson is an Intentionally Intimate Relationship coach providing practical, research based tools to build long-lasting relationships. Kyle is best known for his compassion and non-judgemental style and his capacity to seeing the root problem. Download the Intimacy 5 Challenge to learn where you and your partner can improve your emotional connection and build lasting intimacy.

Repairs During Conflict are a Superpower of Emotionally Connected Couple

Repairs During Conflict are a Superpower of Emotionally Connected Couple

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This article was originally published on Verily

When you think about it, every couple in every relationship is set up for failure. It is impossible to be emotionally available to your partner 100 percent of the time. In fact, you will miss most of your partner’s bids for emotional connection out of mindlessness.… Continue reading Here

The 3 Choices of Connection that Make a Relationship Amazing or Lonely

The 3 Choices of Connection that Make a Relationship Amazing or Lonely

“Feed and clothe a human infant but deprive him of emotional contact [and] he will die.” – A General Theory of Love

Matt and Evalin fight about everything under the sun. Evalin tells Matt, “you’re a slob. It’s not hard to pick up your clothes off the floor and put it in the hamper.” Matt responds, “you shouldn’t be talking.… Continue reading Here

How Emotional Agility Improves Relationships: An Interview with Susan David, Ph.D.

How Emotional Agility Improves Relationships: An Interview with Susan David, Ph.D.

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This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog. 

Susan David, Ph.D. is an award-winning psychologist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School and the CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, a boutique business consultancy. Her new book Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life teaches a counterintuitive approach to achieving your true potential, which was heralded by the Harvard Business Review as a groundbreaking idea of the year in 2016.Continue reading Here

4 Common Solvable Problems in Romantic Relationships

4 Common Solvable Problems in Romantic Relationships

This article originally appeared on Verily.

Although every happy relationship is different, every relationship has solvable problems and unsolvable problems. Dr. John Gottman has identified four of the most common solvable relationship conflicts for couples: technology, work stress, money, and housework.… Continue reading Here

The Risky Paradox of Love: The More You Give, The More You Feel

The Risky Paradox of Love: The More You Give, The More You Feel

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Love is often perceived as this easy thing that everyone is capable of doing. I find this to be untrue. To love and be loved can create anxiety.

To have the faith that we are lovable and beautiful with our scars, not just temporarily, but permanently in our own heart, is a questionable endeavor for many.… Continue reading Here

The Magic 6 Hours That Makes Love Last (Based on Research)

The Magic 6 Hours That Makes Love Last (Based on Research)

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This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog. 

All of your relationship problems cannot be solved by reading a book, attending a weekend workshop, or enrolling in couples therapy. With that said, learning what distinguishes happy couples from unhappy ones can change the course of how you and your partner love each other.… Continue reading Here

The One Daily Talk That Will Change Your Relationship

The One Daily Talk That Will Change Your Relationship

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This article was originally published on the Gottman Relationship Blog

When Steven gets home from work, his partner Katie asks him, “How was your day, dear?” Their conversation goes like this.

Steven: At my weekly meeting my manager challenged my knowledge of our products and told the CEO that I am incompetent.… Continue reading Here